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If you are in a commitment, relationship or a marriage that is sex-starved marriage one probably can feel the blues. Whether a person is one with a high desire or one with a flat sex line it is a must to improve the relationship in which the person is. 

Here are 6 tips which can be discussed with the partner who has a low sexual desire:

1. A satisfying relationship should be a priority: There are two main reasons to make sex life better and pay attention to it. The first reason is that relationship with the spouse and the marriage depend on sex to a large extent. There is no successful relationship unless there is a satisfying sex life. A second reason is that unless the intimate act is not enjoyed a person is just cheating themselves. 

2. Medical Checkup: A visit to the gynecologist or physician can be planned for the spouse. Hormone replacement therapy can be considered. Evaluation and assessment should be done to see the effects are not been caused due to medication. Certain herbal and dietary changes might be helpful.

3. An appointment with a therapist experienced in the area of sexuality should be scheduled: A certified sex therapist can help overcome the difficulties faced by you or your partner - whoever - faces a low sexual desire. Drugs, like Viagra, could be prescribed by the therapist.

4. Consider the spouse's feelings: Though you might have a low sexual drive but do make sure that you take care of your spouse's feelings as they can be rejected and hurt. The spouse's mood can be elated by flirting and telling them that they are special to you.

5. Exercise and running: Daily exercises lead to an increase in the blood circulation and thus the blood is pumped to all parts of the body. In women who exercise, the circulation increases the fluids of the vagina which in turn helps in quicker lubrication when in the act. Exercising also lengthens and strengthens the orgasm. Also, while exercising the brain releases endorphins the sex hormone. These hormones not only spice up the sex but also help in digestion, lower the heart rate, blood pressure and cortisol and ease the body.

6. Improve self-esteem: In some cases, a poor body image might be a hindrance from indulging into sexual activity. These personal issues should be given time and dealt with in order to boost self-esteem. One can start by exercising to improve body image. Also, lifestyle modification and cutting down on cigarettes and alcohol helps. A new hobby can be taken up to relieve mental pressures.

When someone intends to describe 'intercourse', the adjective painful is not the first thing to spring up in your mind. But more often than not, you or your partner might be suffering from a painful experience under the sheets that further complicate your relationship. But to paraphrase, it doesn't have to be like this. If you are encountering pain on a regular basis, it is best to talk to your partner and to a doctor to get rid of the problems. Below is a list of 6 reasons that could be responsible for painful intercourse:

1. Lack of sufficient lubrication: When the female member is turned on because of foreplay, there is an adequate amount of white mucous discharge in the vagina which works as a natural lubricant and makes penetration easy and comfortable. A lack of sufficient foreplay or a side effect of usage of medications for allergies and antidepressants might make your vagina dry which can cause pain. Also, intercourse before your menstrual periods can also facilitate the painful experience. This condition can be checked upon by usage of lubricants which will sufficiently moisturize the vagina.
2. Inflammation of the bladder region can also cause pain during sex: It is recommended to urinate after sex in order to drain away the bacteria that might have entered your body during intercourse.
3. Infection: Infection in the vagina, which can be denoted by the change of color in the vaginal discharge can be a reason for the pain. Also itching in the vagina (vaginitis) in case of women or infection to certain contraceptives for men can also give rise to pain.
4. Inflammation of prostate gland: For males, severe pain just a few moments before ejaculation might be a result of prostatitis (inflammation of the prostate gland) and should be immediately diagnosed.<sexologist in jaipur>
5. Medical Conditions: If the pain during intercourse affects your whole body, then there is a possibility that the pain is a reason for some underlying serious medical condition like problems in the uterus, irritable bowel syndrome or ovarian cysts.
6. Hormonal Imbalance: If you are pregnant or you have given birth just a few months back, you might feel pain during intercourse as changes in hormones during pregnancy might cause your vagina to dry up. If you wish to discuss any specific problem, you can consult a sexologist.<sexologist in Jaipur-dr amit joshi>

Do not let that round bump come in the way of lovemaking. Pregnancy often brings about substantial physical distance between couples. The mother goes through unimaginable bodily exhaustion while the father could be busy balancing things inside and outside the household; they hardly find time to reach out to one another through physical expression of love. However, an expecting couple should find ways to make love quite often as it is the best way to relieve stress and anxiety.These five positions can be adopted for wonderful sex during pregnancy:1. Spooning can give you immense satisfaction: Spooning is the best available option if you are looking for shallow penetration. Women opt for this position especially in their third trimester when the belly is too big for any face to face action. The male has his hands free and can hence touch or stimulate you without any hindrance.2. Try going on top to relieve exertion: When the man is on top with the woman underneath, pressure could be built upon the baby bump. To avoid such a case, the woman can go on top. This way, deeper penetration is facilitated. Both partners can see each other's faces during intercourse and the female's erogenous zones can be easily accessed by the male. For extra support, a pregnant lady could lean backward and place her hands alongside her partner's legs.3. You could be the doggy to avoid pressure: You could be the doggy by either leaning against the wall or by bending over on the sofa. This way your baby remains safe and your back are saved from stress too. Having sex in this position is specifically beneficial for those who have spine injuries.4. Lying side by side to form a pair of scissors: This position will only help the man enter you at a shallow level yet it is a beautiful way of having intercourse as both of you can see each other and cuddle or kiss constantly to convey love.5. The classic missionary pose can be redefined: The classic missionary pose can be modified to suit your needs. You could wrap your legs around your partner's waist while the two of you face each other; the male is required to kneel at the edge of the bed to adjust his thrusts properly DR-Amit Joshi(sexologist in India)

Mr Ramesh Chand goyal a 56-year-man visited my center for follow-up of hypertension control. During his history, he reports significant erectile dysfunction (ED) that has progressed over the past 8 months. This has been distressing to him and to his wife and has caused significant marital strife. He has been treated for hypertension for 4 to 5 years and is currently taking a combination of hydrochlorothiazide and atenolol with good blood pressure control. His past history includes obesity and a sedentary lifestyle.His blood pressure is moderately controlled (152/82 mm Hg). He reports no morning erections, nocturnal erections, or spontaneous erections satisfactory for vaginal penetration. He has a normal ejaculatory function. Physical examination is normal with normal genitalia.Laboratory studies include total cholesterol 265 mg/dL, high-density lipoprotein 38 mg/dL, low-density lipoprotein 120 mg/dL, triglycerides 270 mg/dL, and blood sugar 185 mg/dL. Total testosterone 380ng/ml, free testosterone 4.15 pg/ml,Hba1c 6.9 .Patients are suffering from metabolic syndrome, Obesity, dyslipidemia, and high blood sugars, we need to explain regarding risk factors for vascular disease and erectile dysfunction.Since he was not taking nitrates or alpha blockers, phosphodiesterase enzyme 5 (PDE5) inhibitors were initiated to improve his erectile function.  the patient was initiated on statin treatment for his dyslipidemia and referred to a dietary controlled weight-loss program. He should encourage to start exercising. It was suspected that another cause of his ED was the combination of antihypertensive medications due to his hypertension. We can change his anti-hypertensive medications from a thiazide diuretic and beta blocker to angiotensin-converting enzyme inhibitor, alpha 2 receptor blocker, calcium channel blocker, alone or in combination. Because of his ED, the patient was motivated to improve his overall risk-factor profile with the assistance of a PDE5 inhibitor as a motivational alternative.The patient and his wife were given the opportunity to seek marital counseling for further improvement in their interpersonal relationship and resolution of ED.