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This concept depends on person to person. Normally people consider only males responsible for premarital sex, but if you give it a thought, the male has sex with a woman after all, which means both male and female are responsible for this act.

There has been an amazing change in concepts of premarital sex nowadays in modern society as compared to the era before the year 2000. According to a survey, nearly 60% of people feel that there is no harm in having premarital sex. It makes them well versant in the act and increases their performance as compared to the hiccups which normally newly wedded couples face.

With free access to a variety of sexually explicit content available on the internet, it is natural that everyone is truly knowledgeable of sex. However, it still depends on the upbringing and family strict traditions that many men and women are still having the knowledge of an infant in sex matters.

Sex knowledge might resonate through a joke cracked by a friend or a hurried dialogue by a family elder on the conduct of sex on the wedding night. It still happens in many parts of the world where the male and female are virgins at the time of their marriage.

The problem arises when the male is well experienced and the female is a virgin and comes with her inhibitions and fear of sex. The marriage has a disastrous take-off and sooner or later conflicts arise amongst the wedded couple. The male who had experienced varieties of sex with his girlfriend, finds the wife to be an absolute ignoramus and not able to live up to his expectations.

Had it been vice versa, where the wife came experienced and the husband was a virgin I leave it to your imagination as to what may have occurred on their first night – something similar to a tigress mauling a poor lamb!

An important to note is that during courtship of boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, the time of the meeting is normally quite short and sex takes up top priority, whereas, in a marital relationship, this isn’t the scene.

Taking care of household chores, office responsibilities, taking care of in-laws (in case of a female), etc. sex takes a backseat and can only be conducted after all the chores are completed – by that time it is natural that both or especially the female would be exhausted and sex would be the last thing that would be in her mind.

Another point to be considered is that sexual response timing is totally different between a man and a woman. A male may get erect and ready within moments of imagining the actual act, whereas the woman, on the other hand, needs to be caressed and may require foreplay to get well lubricated and ready. If the husband hurries the action, it is quite possible that he might get a negative response from his wife which would lead to sexual dysfunction in both the sexes.

Well in such a situation the couple faces a lot of stress and misgivings towards each other which lead to anxiety and stress amongst the couple. Lack of communication amongst the couple is the major reason for the conflict going from bad to worse. To come out of this agony, the husband consulted one of the best sexologists in town.

Dr. Amit Joshi advised him to come along with his wife the following day. Communicating with both of them simultaneously, the doctor was able to make them understand where their problem actually lay. Both were able to shed their judgemental views about each other. Through the means of psychotherapy and nature-based medications, the couple slowly started coming nearer to each other and experienced conjugal bliss.

Though some people experience premarital sex, it is not an advisable act because in later life one faces many issues in married life due to such an appropriate act that eventually poisons marital harmony. For your own welfare, it is best to exercise control on your emotions till you get married and experience the beautiful emotions of lovemaking with your beloved wife. It would be better to keep the animal urge in a dormant stage till the right time comes for letting the animal loose.

Communicating in a marital sexual relationship is the key to happiness.

 

Stress is a part of our daily hectic lives. It can be as simple as getting late to managing financial burdens or keeping a healthy balance between work issues and home responsibilities. The important point is that if you remain stressed for a longer period of time, it not only affects your body system and brings in life-threatening diseases such as heart, type 2 diabetes, high blood pressure, hypertension and cancer, but also affects your sex drive - which eventually will increase your stress levels considerably and turn you into a chronic stress patient.  

In such a scenario, instead of concentrating on having a healthy sex life, you conjure up questions like:

 

  • Have I lost my sex drive?
  •  Why can’t I get into the mood for sex?
  •  Where has my concentration for sex disappeared?
  • Why do I face difficulties in activating my sex organs?

 

These and many such questions start hounding the mind. One must understand that the brain happens to be our primary sex organ. If we are stressed out in our lives and thinking multiple stressful things during the day and especially at night, it is but natural that the sex drive would take a side step and completely disappear.

 

Due to this, the people that matter most to us in life, we will be on constant arguments with them, because after office hours when we reach home, we would need to give time to them, but on the contrary, since we are feeling irritated due to stress, we vent out our irritation on them.

 

This gives rise to certain myths which aren’t beneficial to entertain. It is but natural that we start wallowing in our own misery and keep sex-related stress to ourselves. Even if we decide to share our sex problems with others, the response that we receive from them may leave us more frustrated towards our sex life.

 

Dr. Amit Joshi - one of the best sexologists of Jaipur has had years of practice solving sex-related problems of men and women both. He says, “It is normal for people to experience stress but the way they correlate it with some myths connected to their sex life is completely flabbergasting.”

 

Some of the trending myths that hound the minds of couples are outlined below:

 

  1. Your life partner doesn’t seem too inclined for sex, it’s a waste of time to be together - so why not get divorced?
  2. If your sexual partner doesn’t desire being with you, it looks like they don’t love you anymore.
  3. I am not able to perform and satisfy my sexual partner - I must have lost my sex drive completely - will it ever come back?

 

Such myths are detrimental for happy sexual health, imagining such things is a different thing, but convincing yourself into believing them is the final end. The net result being that either you end up living in a dejected state for the rest of your life or worst case scenario being - you file for a divorce.

 

That is why one should seek the assistance of a qualified sexologist such as Dr. Amit Joshi to take proper guidance to overcome the devilish effects of stress on your sex life. You can be sure that you aren’t the only person who suffers due to stressful sex-related problems - your sexual partner also suffers with you.

Chronic stress has a direct connection with creating a hormonal spurt in your body - the hormone cortisol gets activated rapidly that helps one to survive during a stressful situation - it enables one to take an instant decision of running from the seemingly imminent danger or standing back and fighting it out. It is but natural that in such a situation, where can the even minutest thought of sex come into play?

 

Chronic stress lowers your libido which leads to symptoms such as erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation in males and vaginal dryness and irregularities in your menstrual cycle. Reaching a healthy climax and orgasm during sex seems more like a distant dream for chronic stress patients.

This can eventually lead to depression in a couple’s sexual health.

 

It is very important to take time out from your stressful life and enjoy little moments of intimacy through kissing, hugging, fondling, etc. to keep igniting the flame of sexual pleasures.

 

If you have tried all the above and still couldn’t manage to lead a healthy sex life, it is wise to seek the help of a renowned sexologist or sex doctor - the results would be life changing and beneficial for your healthy sex life and harmonious relationship with your sex partner.

 

You can seek the help of Dr.Amit Joshi who is just a call away @ ______________ or you can even seek online assistance by sending in your queries for sex-related problems. After all, doctors considered as friends for life!

 

Nightfall or night discharge is a condition when some men ejaculate in sleep usually in the early hours of the morning or late at night. This problem usually worsens due to the weakness in muscles and nerves of the penis due to a past bad history of excessive masturbation, thinning of semen viscosity, fluctuation in hormones and a full bladder. Usually, men are able to hold the semen, but when in excess then it is eliminated in the form of nightfall or late at night. This problem usually worsens due to the weakness in muscles and nerves due to a bad history of excessive masturbation, thinning of semen viscosity, fluctuation in hormones and a full bladder. Men are able to hold the semen but when it excess then it is eliminated in the form of nightfall.In the case of excessive semen flow and nightfall, a person might experience insomniadizziness, weakness, loss of memory and sight, pain in knees, weaker sexual incapacity, infertility, erectile, dysfunction and not to forget stress. In rare cases, a person might pass urine along with semen. of excessive semen flow and nightfall, a person might experience insomnia, dizziness, weakness, loss of memory and sight, pain in knees, weaker sexual incapacity, infertility, erectile, dysfunction and not to forget stress. In a rare case, a person might pass urine along with semen.Treatment for nightfall:It is believed that the best way to stop nightfall is by changing the lifestyle and treating with the guidance of the doctor. This includes reducing the frequency of masturbation and avoiding porn and nude pictures. However, there are some ways to cure nightfall naturally by doing the following:

  1. Meditation increases concentration and inner feelings can be controlled. This helps distract men from indulging in unwanted activities and is very effective in controlling nightfall.
  2. Exercise and yoga allow a person to have full control of their mind, body, and soul. By doing regular yoga and exercises sex-related activities which induce nightfall can be avoided.
  3. Bathing with essential oils before going to bed is helpful as it relaxes the body and mind and allows a good sleep.
  4. Change in diet can prevent nightfall. Men who suffer from this problem should avoid acidic food.

And if the nightfall persists you need to consult a sexologist and with proper treatment of the underlying cause, you can cure your problem completely with your lost physical and sexual strength.Curing nightfall is easy and should be recognized so that it does not hamper the sex life of a man.Following home remedies can also be taken to control or prevent the situation:

  1. Bottle gourd has a cooling effect thereby cools the system which is responsible for nightfall. It can be used in two ways, either by drinking bottle gourd juice before bedtime or by mixing the juice with sesame oil and massaging it.
  2. Gooseberry or amla helps in increasing the immunity of the body. It is believed that drinking a glass of gooseberry juice can help get rid of nightfall.
  3. Onions and garlic are known to cure many health-related conditions. 3-4 cloves of raw garlic and onions in the form of salads should be had to cure nightfall.
  4. Milk, when combined with pre-soaked almonds, banana, and ginger, helps to eliminate this problem. Banana has a cooling property which helps to control the problem. Also, eating curd is beneficial as it has healing properties which cool the system and increase immunity.
  5. Juice of celery and fenugreek are very helpful in nightfall as well as premature ejaculation. These juices can be mixed with honey in a ratio of 2:1.

In case you have a concern or query you can always consult with Dr Amit Joshi.he is India" leading sexologist and hormone expert & get answers to your questions!

The post-partum period is the first few (usually six) weeks after delivering the baby. Sex might be the last thing you think of during this time. Sexual desires might decrease due to the following:

  1. Healing from the incision (in case of vaginal delivery)
  2. Cesarean birth healing (abdominal incisions)
  3. Fatigue caused by the whole birthing process and pregnancy
  4. Stress caused by the newly born baby (especially more so in case of triplets or twins)
  5. Shifts in the hormonal levels
  6. Breastfeeding related to breast sores
  7. Emotional difficulties such as parenting anxiety, relationship problems with the baby’s father
  8. Postpartum blues

After the incision (if any) has fully healed along with the delicate vaginal tissues, it is generally safer to have intercourse. It might take a few weeks for the healing process to fully complete. The doctor will be able to give more personal advice on when it is ok to start having sex again. Usually, in case of a normal delivery, the waiting period is 6 weeks. The emotional readiness and physical comfort are extremely important as well. In a lot of cases, it might take up to a year for the normal sex life of the couple to resume again.

Also, there is a common misconception amongst many couples that during the postpartum period, having a baby again isn’t possible. Condoms should be used if you aren’t abstaining from sex in the postpartum period. This helps in avoiding an unplanned pregnancy and the complications that can arise from two successive deliveries.

The body goes through a lot of changes after giving birth. Low libido affects the sex drive. The body needs time to recuperate and might not be ready for sex immediately after giving birth as it switches itself to give care for the newborn. A break is often necessary as the body and mind heal.

Vaginal dryness in the postpartum weeks is also very common. Lube and lots of it can help. The vagina, in the initial weeks, stretches out quite a bit. It slowly starts returning to its original contracted state as the muscles become tight again.

It’s also important to remember that you can be intimate with your partner after you give birth to a baby, without having sex. Body contact and cuddles are ways of expressing your affection towards your partner. Love doesn’t need to be dependent on sex! If you wish to discuss any specific problem, you can consult India" Leading sexologist Dr. Amit Joshi in Jaipur.

If you are in a commitment, relationship or a marriage that is sex-starved marriage one probably can feel the blues. Whether a person is one with a high desire or one with a flat sex line it is a must to improve the relationship in which the person is. 

Here are 6 tips which can be discussed with the partner who has a low sexual desire:

1. A satisfying relationship should be a priority: There are two main reasons to make sex life better and pay attention to it. The first reason is that relationship with the spouse and the marriage depend on sex to a large extent. There is no successful relationship unless there is a satisfying sex life. A second reason is that unless the intimate act is not enjoyed a person is just cheating themselves. 

2. Medical Checkup: A visit to the gynecologist or physician can be planned for the spouse. Hormone replacement therapy can be considered. Evaluation and assessment should be done to see the effects are not been caused due to medication. Certain herbal and dietary changes might be helpful.

3. An appointment with a therapist experienced in the area of sexuality should be scheduled: A certified sex therapist can help overcome the difficulties faced by you or your partner - whoever - faces a low sexual desire. Drugs, like Viagra, could be prescribed by the therapist.

4. Consider the spouse's feelings: Though you might have a low sexual drive but do make sure that you take care of your spouse's feelings as they can be rejected and hurt. The spouse's mood can be elated by flirting and telling them that they are special to you.

5. Exercise and running: Daily exercises lead to an increase in the blood circulation and thus the blood is pumped to all parts of the body. In women who exercise, the circulation increases the fluids of the vagina which in turn helps in quicker lubrication when in the act. Exercising also lengthens and strengthens the orgasm. Also, while exercising the brain releases endorphins the sex hormone. These hormones not only spice up the sex but also help in digestion, lower the heart rate, blood pressure and cortisol and ease the body.

6. Improve self-esteem: In some cases, a poor body image might be a hindrance from indulging into sexual activity. These personal issues should be given time and dealt with in order to boost self-esteem. One can start by exercising to improve body image. Also, lifestyle modification and cutting down on cigarettes and alcohol helps. A new hobby can be taken up to relieve mental pressures.

When it comes to sexually transmitted diseases or STDs, there is no doubt that prevention is better than cure. Contrary to popular belief, STDs do not spread only through intercourse. STDs can also spread by skin to skin contact. The easiest way to prevent STDs is by abstaining from sex or being in a monogamous relationship with an uninfected person. This may not be possible for many men. Hence, let's take a look at alternatives to prevent sexual diseases.1. Get tested - Most STDs can be easily tested for and treated. Thus, it is a good idea to regularly get yourself tested if you have more than one sexual partner. Your partner should ideally also get tested for STDs. However, remember that herpes and human papillomavirus do not show up on STD tests.2. Avoid sex under the influence of alcohol or drugs - When inebriated, you may not make the best decisions. Decisions made at this stage are usually rash and not thought out. Thus, you may forget to ask the other person if she has been tested for STDs.3. Vaccinations - Vaccinations can be effective against some types of STDs. The HPV vaccine can be given to boys as young as 11 years until they turn 26. Other vaccines that protect men from STDs are Hepatitis A and hepatitis B vaccinations.4. Use condoms - Condoms are the only way to protect yourself against the transference of STDs during intercourse. A condom should be used even if the woman is using an alternate form of birth control. Never reuse a condom and do not use oil-based lubricants with a condom. Before using a condom always check to ensure the condom is not punctured in any way and that it is within the expiry period. A condom should be used for oral, vaginal and anal sex. However, this does not prevent the transmission of STDs like syphilis, herpes, and HPV.5. Communicate with your partner - It is a good idea to share your sexual history with your partner. This creates an environment where you can discuss getting tested for STDs before engaging in intercourse. You must reach an explicit agreement about what forms of intercourse both of you are comfortable with. It is also a good idea to discuss a possible monogamous relationship with your partner. 6. Circumcision - Male circumcision is said to reduce a man's risk of contracting STDs like HIVgenital herpes and genital HPV.

When someone intends to describe 'intercourse', the adjective painful is not the first thing to spring up in your mind. But more often than not, you or your partner might be suffering from a painful experience under the sheets that further complicate your relationship. But to paraphrase, it doesn't have to be like this. If you are encountering pain on a regular basis, it is best to talk to your partner and to a doctor to get rid of the problems. Below is a list of 6 reasons that could be responsible for painful intercourse:

  1. Lack of sufficient lubrication: When the female member is turned on because of foreplay, there is an adequate amount of white mucous discharge in the vagina which works as a natural lubricant and makes penetration easy and comfortable. A lack of sufficient foreplay or a side effect of usage of medications for allergies and antidepressants might make your vagina dry which can cause pain. Also, intercourse before your menstrual periods can also facilitate the painful experience. This condition can be checked upon by usage of lubricants which will sufficiently moisturize the vagina.
  2. Inflammation of the bladder region can also cause pain during sex: It is recommended to urinate after sex in order to drain away the bacteria that might have entered your body during intercourse.
  3. Infection: Infection in the vagina, which can be denoted by the change of color in the vaginal discharge can be a reason for the pain. Also itching in the vagina (vaginitis) in case of women or infection to certain contraceptives for men can also give rise to pain.
  4. Inflammation of prostate gland: For males, severe pain just a few moments before ejaculation might be a result of prostatitis (inflammation of the prostate gland) and should be immediately diagnosed.<sexologist in jaipur>
  5. Medical Conditions: If the pain during intercourse affects your whole body, then there is a possibility that the pain is a reason for some underlying serious medical condition like problems in the uterus, irritable bowel syndrome or ovarian cysts.
  6. Hormonal Imbalance: If you are pregnant or you have given birth just a few months back, you might feel pain during intercourse as changes in hormones during pregnancy might cause your vagina to dry up. If you wish to discuss any specific problem, you can consult a sexologist.<sexologist in Jaipur-dr amit joshi>

According to research, 80% of women fail to reach the pinnacle of gratification during physical intimacy. Therefore, certain tips may come in handy for women when it comes to achieving orgasm by making the man last longer.1. Indulge in foreplay: Foreplay is usually very helpful in making the man last longer than usual. According to a popular woman's magazine, alternating between the actual intercourse and foreplay might actually titillate the man's senses even more, which helps him last longer.2. Change positions: Changing positions frequently may also delay orgasm for the man, thus helping him to last longer. Certain positions are rather helpful in this regard, especially the ones which let the woman take charge of things in the bedroom.3. Take it slow: It might be useful for the couple to begin slowly and for the woman to take her time exploring her partner's body. The idea here is to increase the pace gradually instead of getting too fast too soon.4. Try to take his mind off the action: It usually helps a man last longer in bed by taking his mind off the immediate act. This reduces the heightened levels of arousal, making him last comparatively longer.5. Indulge in more "between the sheets" action: Having more sex causes the man to be more sexually experienced, thus making him out-last his previous standards.6. Some DIY can help you beat the clock: Masturbating more frequently increases a man's ability to hold off ejaculation. This habit, though in excess is bad for a man's libido, if practiced in moderation, can help him stretch his couch sessions read less

Do not let that round bump come in the way of lovemaking. Pregnancy often brings about substantial physical distance between couples. The mother goes through unimaginable bodily exhaustion while the father could be busy balancing things inside and outside the household; they hardly find time to reach out to one another through physical expression of love. However, an expecting couple should find ways to make love quite often as it is the best way to relieve stress and anxiety.These five positions can be adopted for wonderful sex during pregnancy:1. Spooning can give you immense satisfaction: Spooning is the best available option if you are looking for shallow penetration. Women opt for this position especially in their third trimester when the belly is too big for any face to face action. The male has his hands free and can hence touch or stimulate you without any hindrance.2. Try going on top to relieve exertion: When the man is on top with the woman underneath, pressure could be built upon the baby bump. To avoid such a case, the woman can go on top. This way, deeper penetration is facilitated. Both partners can see each other's faces during intercourse and the female's erogenous zones can be easily accessed by the male. For extra support, a pregnant lady could lean backward and place her hands alongside her partner's legs.3. You could be the doggy to avoid pressure: You could be the doggy by either leaning against the wall or by bending over on the sofa. This way your baby remains safe and your back are saved from stress too. Having sex in this position is specifically beneficial for those who have spine injuries.4. Lying side by side to form a pair of scissors: This position will only help the man enter you at a shallow level yet it is a beautiful way of having intercourse as both of you can see each other and cuddle or kiss constantly to convey love.5. The classic missionary pose can be redefined: The classic missionary pose can be modified to suit your needs. You could wrap your legs around your partner's waist while the two of you face each other; the male is required to kneel at the edge of the bed to adjust his thrusts properly DR-Amit Joshi(sexologist in India)

The thyroid gland is a tiny gland that produces the hormones which affect the body's metabolic process. When these hormones are produced in less or more quantities, it may result in an imbalance of the thyroid gland, leading to a range of thyroid issues including hypothyroidism, hyperthyroidism, and others. Overproduction or underproduction of the thyroid hormones can also cause a variety of other symptoms and conditions. While this affects the state of one's general well being, health and weight, it also has an effect on the patient's libido.Let us learn more about the link between thyroid and sex.Thyroid in Men: Men who are suffering from hyperthyroidism or hypothyroidism as well as related conditions like goiter or Graves Disease, have complained of sex-related problems. These problems are known to affect at least 50% to 60% of the patients, as per various medical reports. The sex-related issues include premature ejaculation, low sex drive, delayed ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, and others.Thyroid in Women: It has been found that almost 10% of women over the age of 50 suffer from some form or the other of thyroid hormone imbalance. Apart from fatigue, depression and muscle ache as well as weight alteration, depending on the type of thyroid problem, thyroid patients who are women have also experienced problems when it comes to libido. Sexual dysfunction and arousal problems are high on the list of these issues.Hormonal Treatment: One of the most common ways of treating sex related thyroid problems for thyroid patients is through the use of hormonal therapy. Besides getting the testosterone, estrogen and other androgen levels checked, the patient must also get a full hormonal evaluation along with a check-up of the adrenal function. This can help in pointing any anomalies and the hormones that will require replacement with the help of appropriate medication.Optimal Drug Treatment: A T4 only drug or Levothyroxine can lead to a resolution of sexual problems that one encounters as a part of thyroid problems. There are many doctors who may switch to a T3 drug once the libido is restored and brought back to normal.Supplements: Men may require testosterone supplements, while women may need estrogen or progesterone supplements to tackle sexual problems in such cases. These can be rendered as a patch or through an injection.Sex Therapy: In many cases, sex therapy considered as a popular and effective form of addressing the problems and helping the patients get around the same. This is especially helpful if depression is one of the symptoms of thyroid disorder.A thorough physical check-up also helps in treating such problems for thyroid patients.

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